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Imagine a drug that can increase female sexual desire. Many of you have already tried to imagine it. So have the pharmaceutical companies. Since about 30% of women report their sexual desire is too low, the income potential for such a drug has many businesses hoping to cash in.

Testosterone patches are just one of the medications proposed for increasing sexual desire in women. The latest attempt has been called by some the “female Viagra”. The nickname is misleading since Viagra is an arousal drug not a desire drug, but potentially accurate in the impact it could have on society. At this point, however, Filbanserin (proposed trade name is Girosa) has been rejected by the FDA.

Each year, the General Board of Superintendents of The Wesleyan Church hold a symposium on doctrinal issues. In 2010, the topic was "Wesleyan Perspectives on Human Nature: Perfect, Flawed, and Redeemed". They graciously invited me to present a paper on Sexual Transformation.

The question they asked me to address was:

Viewed from the perspective of creation, carnality, and consecration,
what was human nature intended to be, what happened to this ideal,
and can people be transformed sexually?

I titled my paper "Such Were Some of You: Testaments to Sexual Transformation" and took a John 9 approach of telling stories of God's transforming power. The paper identifies God's design for sexuality, how it has gone wrong, barriers to sexual transformation and some points on how sexual transformation occurs.

Several people have asked me about this paper. You are invited to read the paper through this link (PDF format of the paper). When done, I'd love to hear your comments. Use the Contact Us form to send them in. I hope to post some to this page.

Thoughts on desire, sin, affairs and being deceived...

Some thoughts on desire, sin, affairs and being deceived while reading the book of James...

About 70% of my therapy load involves post-affair couples. One, or both, of the spouses have had an affair and they are in my office, at least in part, to restore their marriage. As a result, I have heard hundreds of stories of how affairs develop. The more I hear, the more James 1:14-16 becomes real to me.

Also: "Playing Dress Up?" "Initiating Sex"

Also: "His daughter's killing our intimacy", "He looks at other women"